Growing Pains

There are some things in life that I’m just no good at.

It is so easy for me to share all that comes naturally. When I have to apply myself in an area where my skills and abilities don’t come easily or naturally, things can get ugly.

As humans, there is a natural tendency to want to look good, feel competent and sail through life with total ease. I don’t want to appear insecure. I don’t want to fly my shortcomings up a flag for everyone to see. But I am learning that by staying in a zone of
comfort and ease I’m short changing my growth on every level.

It is time to face my fears and insecurities by tapping into the infinite potential that resides with me so that I may access and realize my highest potential.

I remember the kids in school who got the best grades weren’t necessarily the smartest, but the ones who applied themselves and worked diligently every day. They didn’t allow themselves to be defined by their lack of innate ability.

I’m in the thick of watching the World Cup .... These athletes have natural ability, but they too must face shortcomings and apply themselves everyday. Practice, practice, practice. A willingness to show up and do the hard work. This is how growth and mastery is
achieved.

We hear stories again and again of how in business people have created huge corporations through their work ethic and achieved amazing and unprecedented success not because of their natural ability but because of their dedication and drive.

When I am faced by a task that I believe is difficult, I immediately begin to feel the physical manifestation of my resistance. It shows up in the pit of my stomach. I begin to feel overmhelmed. I come up with excuses to put off the task. I avoid having to face the difficult work. I pass is off to someone else. The compensating mechanisms I have put in place are really quite amazing.

However, on the other side of this stubborn resistance is all that I truly want.

The first step is to simply acknowledge the resistance. Then take a breath. Know that the Divine is with you ready to support you in every task. Now begin to take the action required in the face of these feelings.

When you apply yourself in an area where you perceive yourself to not be as talented - or that you don’t enjoy - the fruits of your success taste that much sweeter. Know that you have the ability to achieve whatever you want in life.

Go beyond your reasons, stories and excuses to live the life of your dreams. Tap into your divine potential and stretch and grow beyond who you know yourself to be.

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Comments (9)

By Lisa Jones from greenville on 06/16/2010

Yep, sounds familiar. When I think about drawing another picture, all the excuses and fear come welling up. Get butterflies in my stomach. So silly, I know. Yet, when I just do it, everything disappears. Scared myself actually the first time I every did a chalk drawing!!! Nothing that good could have come from me. That was a long time ago though, but what is still keeping me from picking up the pencil, the chalk, the paintbrush??? I know the answer to that. Also, I have someone asking me to do a session (actually I know a handful of people who would come) and why do I keep dragging my feet? How do I just start? I’m sure it will all transpire in Divine order. Thanks for this message Panache. I’m breathing! LOL!

By Sabrina Neal from Orlando, FL on 06/16/2010

Thank you for sharing this. I feel the same way. I have been feeling overwhelmed and like a failure because everytime I seem to take two steps forward I take two steps back. Thank you for reminding me to persevere.

By Christine from knoxville Tn. on 06/16/2010

I do not get what I want, I get what I need. If you know inside you are being Divinely led to do something than I get that it is a must to do all that is required to manifest that. But otherwise I do not get trying to manifest what I want if I am only going to be allowed a reality based on not what I want but what I need. I want my wife. I want a relationship with her. i want her in my life. But I will not be allowed it if it is not meant to be. I can not make something work, happen, exist, that is not for my best interests no matter what my dreams are or what I want. How do I know what is for my highest good? I don’t. i can only suppose that if it is allowed to transpire it is for my highest good and a needed reality for me to experience and if it is not allowed to be, in that reality is the reality I need to experience.

By Judee Pouncey from United States on 06/16/2010

Thanks for the reminder and reinforcement, Panache.

I have never been one to stay in a comfort zone for very long! I tend to take leaps of faith, and then follow them up with patient persistence . . . keep facing the direction I want to go . . . trust, and take inspired action . . . even baby steps are valuable as they keep moving me in that direction.

Wasn’t it Winston Churchill who said “Never, never, never give up”? Or something to that effect.

And someone else said “Failure is only quitting too soon.

: )

By Elaine Roy from Deerfield Beach, FL on 06/16/2010

I’m sure I won’t be the first to say “That’s ME you’re talking about!” I am grateful for these beautiful and powerful words of wisdom. Panache, you have a way of saying the exactly perfect words at the exact perfect time. I feel so blessed for having been led to you. Thank you so much.

By jangudgel from miami on 06/18/2010

The flip side of the “determination coin” is totally giving up—-then Life can take over totally and flow freely—-our resistances then become part of the passing scenery—-fully experienced—but not determining our inner peace or happiness any longer longer.

By Elizabeth from NC on 06/19/2010

Panache, Thank you. Do you think there is stubborn resistance to everything we truly want?

Why do we fear growth? Why do we fear/resist what we truly want?

By Pawnee from white mountain on 06/23/2010

My feeling is the Creator is not micromanaging my being. I am allowed my will to choose. In choosing to align myself to the Divine all of my life can unfold in a miraculous journey, but it is still my journey, my growth. Determination in my life means staying focused on that allignment. As long as I am experiencing the connection everything is unfolding in harmony. Sometimes I get totally disconnected and afraid, then one of my lovely fellow travelers reminds me to breathe and remember.

By Susan Eckler from Osprey, FL on 07/11/2010

Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your challenges! I struggle with and am diligently working on stepping out in fear… feeling the fear and trusting that God’s got my back!

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