1. In Chapter One, “The Promise,” the author brings to light the unconscious agreement that all
of us, in our own unique way, have made with our friends, family, teachers, community…the
world. The agreement that, if you live your life and reach certain milestones, you’ll be happy,
healthy, loved, respected, successful, wealthy, wise, or worthy. Life would be fulfilling. But
here’s the catch—are you aware that you lost touch with your authentic self along the way?
Identify and discuss where your relationship with yourself is based on the role you’ve taken on in
life and other people’s expectations and reactions to that role.
2. In Chapter Two, “The Possibility,” the author introduces the prospect that grace exists in every
situation—the good, the bad, the indifferent. This grace, or sacred energy, creates an opportunity
for expansion and the discovery and recognition of your Essential Self. Explore and discuss
where and/or when you’ve experienced a challenging or even miraculous experience, crisis, or
quintessential wakeup call. Looking at the situation through a new lens, how can you shift your
perception and view this experience with new eyes and an open heart? How is it helping you
reveal your authentic self? Discuss.
3. Do you remember a time in your life when everything was simple, carefree, and even joyous?
A time of unfettered authenticity and limitless possibility? But now you can only wonder,
dazedly, what happened? In Chapter Three, “Conditioning,” the author helps you explore how,
from the moment you were born—through childhood, adolescence, late teens, into adulthood—
you’ve been conditioned out of and away from your authentic self. Looking back on your life
experiences, where have you suppressed or rejected your authentic self, in order to belong or be
accepted by your family, friends, or society? Can you see the possibility that if you stopped
looking for acceptance in places you will never find it, and surrender to your authentic self, you
would once again return to an abundant, carefree, joyous life? Discuss.
4. In Chapter Four, “Your Core Wounding,” the author explains how you (consciously or
unconsciously) experienced a core wounding that made you feel unloved, unsafe, or unworthy in
some capacity. He presents the view that “most of the decisions you make, the goals you pursue,
the relationships you desire, and the life you are creating are motivated by a need to compensate
for your core wounding through a search for love, approval, acceptance, and adulation from the
outside world.” (p. 62) Are you able to identify your core wounding, how you’ve been
compensating for it, and how it’s affected your experience of life to this point? Discuss.
5. In Chapter Five, “The Essential Self,” the author challenges you to journey into the next
evolutionary frontier—soul identification. Just as Descartes missed the fundamental truth of “I
am; therefore, I think,” you have identified with your mind and body, when in truth you are Soul.
“You are Being experiencing the mind and body.” (p. 73) While reading this chapter, were you
able to see how you have obscured and become separated from your Being, or Essential Self, and
instead identified with your created self? How have you allowed your mind, body, and emotions
dictate what is “normal”?
6. In Chapter Six, “Vibrational Transformation,” the author once again addresses the point that
creating change in your life, relying solely on your mind and mental techniques, is impossible.The only way to effectively change your reality is to shift your energy. Transformation happens
when you address the underlying energy that holds your thoughts and beliefs in place. As the
author explains, “Your life is an exact reflection of your overall vibrational frequency. To
experience authentic transformation is to find a new way of being and relating in the world, one
that is anchored in your soul.” (p. 81) Take a moment and turn your attention inward. Where
have you disconnected from your Essential Self (i.e. your soul)? Have you been distracted from
the present moment, dwelling too much on the past, or focusing outward towards the future?
Have you let yourself become buried in feelings of unworthiness or separation? Or perhaps you
have erroneously identified with your thoughts, emotions, body, or limitations? Explore,
consciously observe, and discuss (without judgement!) where any unresolved vibrational energy
is being held captive within you. What is being reflected back at you, waiting to be resolved, so
that you can vibrationally align and evolve?
7. In Chapter Seven, “Awareness,” the author introduces the process of “consciously observing”
and how it facilitates the removal of what’s blocking your Essential Self. This awareness allows
everything that’s unresolved and buried within you to rise to the surface, simultaneously opening
you up to the flow of harmony and connection. Take a moment to try this process for yourself.
Start by being fully present in this very moment. Allow yourself to consciously observe and
become aware of what you’ve kept pent up inside of you. Is it anger, fear, loneliness, pain,
sadness, shame, unworthiness, powerlessness? Simply breathe and be present with yourself and
allow your feelings to completely arise and flow. Be consciously aware in the present moment
and whatever it holds. Feel it. Fully experience it. Discuss what feelings arose for you and how
you will embrace them.
8. In Chapter Eight, “Acceptance,” the author explains that as long as you remain captive to your
feelings, you’ll remain a victim of your perceived reality. Alternatively, accepting your feelings
and the experiences they trigger will help you embody and return to your authentic, best self. The
reason you’re stuck or separated from being your authentic self is because you’re resisting
reality. Resistance can show up as fear, control, judgment, or a reluctance to feel what’s going on
inside of you and in your life. It locks up your energy and brings any growth or forward
movement to a screeching halt. What are you attached to that you think will make you happy, or
end your pain or unhappiness? For example, are you holding on to your youth, grasping at
perceived success, or constantly seeking validation through social media? What do you have an
aversion to that doesn’t fit into your idea of an idyllic reality? This could show up as rejecting
your current physical appearance, how you’re aging, or your relationship status. Right now,
commit to accepting what is—your feelings and your physical state of being. Write down, “I
love and accept ________ (fill in the blank with what you need to accept.)” With this acceptance,
trust how your life is unfolding and relax into the present moment. This is where real
9. In Chapter Nine, “Flexibility,” the author sheds light on an important key to expansion. When
you’re true to yourself, and you don’t allow others’ opinions and judgments to dictate your life,
life flows. Doesn’t it? Alternatively, continually attempting to exert control over everything only
leads to a rigid existence. Life can start to feel out of control. The result is feeling the need to
perpetually gain control over your life experiences and relationships. Being in the flow requires
flexibility. That’s why life will always feel more challenging when you attempt to control it.Where do you get triggered in life, with this need to control? When triggered, where do you feel
tension or constriction in your body? Let your discomfort flow through you. This discomfort is
an opportunity for greater transformation. Discuss your trigger points, where you are rigidly
attempting to control life, what this feels like, and how you can be more flexible.
10. In Chapter Ten, “Consciousness at Thirty-Three Thousand Feet,” the author challenges you
to see past your limited view of life. And to instead, consciously view your world from thirty-
three thousand feet. From this perspective, you would see that everything that’s occurring is
bringing about a greater state of clarity, realization, and enlightenment. Every experience is a
wakeup call to greater opportunity. What story have you been holding on to and telling yourself,
over and over? After answering the questions on page 144, shift your viewpoint to thirty-three
thousand feet. What is your new story—one full of accountability, clarity, honesty, resolution,
and expansion? How is life happening for you? Discuss.
11. In Chapter Eleven, “The Shift”, the author proposes that making your well-being a priority
and extending love and respect to yourself holds the greatest power to transform your experience
of life. Although external factors or people can trigger love within you, they can never be its
source. Love originates within you and you were created to experience it. It’s not about having,
needing, controlling, achieving, or getting something. It’s about experiencing your true, authentic
self. Where are you looking for fulfillment, external from yourself? Where are you making
someone else the source of love that you crave? Where are you blaming someone else for what
you feel you are lacking? It’s time to let these external sources go. Instead, how can you take
responsibility for how you are showing up in this present moment and each day moving forward?
Identifying, accepting, and being with your true self is the one and only source of real
abundance, peace, well-being, and love. Discuss.
12. In Chapter Twelve, “Enter the Heart,” the author explains how being heart-centered is the
only way to powerfully express yourself in the world. He expands upon this, explaining how
your heart also allows you to embrace your deepest, darkest parts, sparking resolution and
transformation. What “sub-personalities” did you create in order to protect yourself from
negative feelings, experiences, or perceptions of being unloved and unworthy? (Discuss) It’s
time to let these go! The Universe did not create you to be imperfect. It’s imperative to listen to
the truth that resides within your heart, not your head. What are your unique abilities,
characteristics, and talents? How can you share these and your authentic self with your family,
friends, community, and the world? (Discuss) Let these truths rise to the surface. Embrace your
peculiarities, differences, and perceived flaws. Feel them. Own them. Be authentic, because that
is your best self!
13. In Chapter Thirteen, “Harmony,” the author invites you to explore what it means to be
human. As the author states, “We are entering the Era of the Soul, an age in which people will
connect with and live life from their Essential Selves.” (pgs. 182-183) Essentially, what it means
to be human is being redefined. You are a human Being. Therefore, your redefinition of what it
means to be a human Being, your Essential Self, requires that you love and accept every aspect
of yourself—the “enlightened part, the crazy part, the compassionate part, the loving, fearful,
angry, and shameful parts.” (p. 192) What does it mean to you, to be a human Being? What are
all of your very human parts that you need to love and accept? Discuss what this looks and feelslike.
14. In Chapter Fourteen, the author presents you with five commitments. As the author sets out
on page 194, “…in order to live up to your potential, you need to commit to it. Commitment
creates intention, and intention makes a desire worthy of manifestation. When you attribute
worth to something, you elevate it and give it priority.” How will you actively embody each of
these five commitments to fully restore your authentic, Essential Self? Discuss.
15. As the author explains in Chapter Fifteen, “Trust and Surrender,” you can only tap into
unlimited opportunity if you are in a state of complete trust and surrender. How many times have
you heard, “Once you stop looking for love, love will find you”? Perhaps you’ve even
experienced a situation where you’ve let go of your attachment to a job or relationship that
wasn’t going anywhere and all of a sudden, a new opportunity miraculously arises. In all of these
situations, the more you can trust and surrender to the truth that resides within you, the easier it is
to relax into receiving all that is available to you. Take a moment and identify where you
currently feel stuck or stagnant. Is it a relationship, job, or the determination to hold on to
something that’s not serving you? What can you do, starting today, to be more human and
expand what’s possible?
16. After reading You Are Enough, what is your greatest insight into yourself? How have you
been unwittingly limiting the expansive potential of your life? Discuss.
17. Lastly, which chapter of You Are Enough did you find the most powerful and why?